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Oct 13, 2022Liked by Lupita Reads

1. When it was brought up about other kids or people he know that were able to migrate by plane made me think of the migration of the maternal side of my family who came from Colombia, starting with my grandmother who left her 4 kids (with her mother, while she figured out how to get them here) and a toxic marriage to be an Au Pair in a city like New York after growing up in a very small mountain town. Though the traveling itself was short and safe , the compromises she had to make and control she had to give up must have weighed on her every day. Though I don’t know the details of my paternal sides migration story (mexican and puerto rican) I can assume there are such stark differences.

2. I thought about how much the timing of the political state and global affairs of the US can affect these migration journeys on top of the country of origin , and how different Javier’s journey would have looked if he was trying to make it now VS 1999, it made me feel some relief that he made this journey in a pre-9/11 and pre-trump/rising facism era. I feel like if this story had been from the last 5 years I don’t know if I could have handled reading it as well.

3. Being a parent definitely influenced how I processed the perspective of Javier’s 9 year old self in a similar way. I felt myself thinking about how I could as a guardian in his life may have helped him advocate for himself more and feel more empowered to ask from the adults who cared him prior to and on the journey for what he needed.

4. Again parent and caretaker reading this the idea of letting go of some much control over my child on a journey like this was so hard to sit with. Not to serve as a judgement to the his parents or family who put him on this journey but as someone who can relate to the idea of weighing really hard options on what works best for the children you care for by compromising a huge loss of control was too much and as I listened to it I definitely felt my body tighten as different part of the journeys went on thinking of worse case scenarios for him. When it came to how Javier and those he was traveling with were being treated by the Mexicans they encountered I was reminded on how toxic “nationalism” is on every level and how much borders and race dictate the levels or empathy or lack there of people may have for others. The biggest challenge to any preconceived notions I had was the idea that a border patrol officer would ever be kind of helpful, again I do think the timeline of when this journey occurred impacted that scenario and outcome so much.

5. How long after the journey did you begin to document it on paper? I was just so impressed with the amount of detail including the dates which really allowed me to put myself in story being share and when I would be impressed by how much detail was given I would then have a sharp emotional pang thinking that when people experience a huge trauma precise details are always remembered.

6. It gave me as a listener an even deeper level of consent as this story was being told, because though we know so many books out there where people share their traumas to heal themselves and others but can be still at the cost of re-traumatization.Hearing his voice gave me security and made the story more genuine that it was a thank you to everyone who got him here and a way to provide connection with all others who have migrated not just children but anyone.

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Oct 13, 2022Liked by Lupita Reads

1.

My family, even though we’re Mexican-American, doesn’t have any migrant stories like that from recent generations. I’ve only recently learned that we’re originally from Arizona, before AZ was a state. So we were here before La USA was here. So this line didn’t ping for me.

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I loved the visual descriptions. I loved how they were childlike but visceral, like Patty’s “hungry bellybutton,” or the “crayon cactus” and “cheerleader trees.” But I want to know: what were the crayon cactuses, and what were the cheerleader trees???? Y los lonelys? Which cactus were those?? I grew up in the El Paso area, so I am pretty familiar with cactus, and guessed the ocotillo were the ones the author described as octopus arms, if I remember correctly.

3.

The 9-year-old perspective made this book an easy one for me to pay attention to. I listened to the audiobook, and though my Spanish is limping at best, I kept translating the simple sentences into Spanish in my head, and wishing I could listen to it in Spanish. I think this would be an excellent book for a Spanish audiobook translation, and I really hope that happens so those immigrants who aren’t comfortable reading English and/or maybe never got the benefit of a higher education could have access to the story. For whatever reason, I didn’t start feeling feelings till the very end, once he was out of the situation and able to look back. Maybe the present tense telling, in that child’s voice, kept the story too in-the-moment to allow the feelings to take hold for me. I was very much along-side the author, taking it all in.

4.

The hardest part of the story for me was the end, once he was with his parents and I could sit back and take in his story as a whole and not moment-by-moment. Looking back on it, I think the hardest part for me was losing Patty, Chino, & Carla, who he’d trauma-bonded with and who literally kept him alive and carried him through the desert and danger.

5.

I want to know if Javier was able to make contact again with The Four?????!!!!! Please please tell me that they are all okay and doing well.

Bonus: Listening to the author read the book:

I grew upon the border, so I’m used to border Mexican & Spanglish. The author pronounced some of the Spanish words differently than I would, with the accent not on the syllable I’m used to hearing it on. I don’t know if that was just him reading aloud or if that is a reflection of his original accent. I did wonder if it was hard for him to read this all.

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I worried that the border patrol guy got in trouble later for 'helping' them rather than taking them to jail. I really hope he gave him an alias!! Good people like that deserve to be protected. He went above and beyond what was demanded because he felt for them.

Even as far as suggestions on how to do it better next time, and to be sure to be better rested. LOL!

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